Must Reads: To Find A Bride & To Find A Groom

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Salaam & hi

Where to begin??

A few days ago I was made aware of a rather interesting story by a man looking for his bride.

To Find A Bride
It’s about a journey he undertook in seeking ‘the one’ that has led him on some ….. shall we say ‘interesting’ meetings… Lol.
This is all about a South African Indian man, and ladies please have a read. I’ve actually learned quite few things about a man through this story.
Yes, it’s based on Indian cultural traditions as well as Islamic traditions.
The author is Muhammed Ismail.
He’s on Facebook as well as on twitter : @tofindabride #tofindabride

To Find A Groom
The 2nd part from the view of a girl seeking a groom is written by Tasneem Basha.

In this part, we see the flip version of the woman seeking her groom.
The reality of how easily a woman can get hurt, all thats expected of her and how she carries on seeking the man who will be her husband after facing some trials, disappointments and rather funny situations are well written and expressed by the authoress.

Men, you should read this especially if you’re seeking a bride!

Tasneem is an awesome authoress, is a close friend and quite well known for her local workshops and talks.

She’s on Facebook as well as in twitter : @tasoo #tofindagroom

Have a read and don’t forget to post your comments!

Ma’as salaama for now… Bye for now 😉

For The Love Of Family

Being Indian and living within an Indian community, marriage is always a hot topic.

From age 17 or 18 onwards be prepared for a barrage of questions concerning marriage, and as you get older, it just gets worse. [Talking from personal experience here.]

The thing is that for some people, when they find love, their parents are not happy with their choice and then all sorts of problems start.
Instead of being happy that your child has someone that loves him/her, and following the Sunnah, you would rather not have him/her marry his/her love, and so invite a plethora sin into your child’s life.

As the Hadeeth mentions, a man marries a woman for one of four reasons: wealth, status, beauty, and piety. Piety being the best of reasons.

But in today’s time, most people marry for love. While other’s settle for arranged marriages and make do with the partners chosen for them. Some find true happiness, while others just do what is expected of them as per familial wishes.

It is not that the family wants to punish the woman or man by selecting their spouse for them, but however, they do it out of love and wanting their child to be happy and taken care of financially.

There are times when consenting to get married is just a compromise. To stop the questions, to stop being ‘fixed up’, to stop gossip, to get away from everyone, and to just be free from all marriage talk… Just say yes… and it all stops… For a while at least.

The next questions begin after marriage and those are ‘when are you going to have children?’

What I personally find sad is that people will never be truly happy for you no matter what your circumstance of life is. They see marriage as the be all and end all in life.
Goals and ambitions don’t necessarily have a place here..

Marriage is all that counts…
And to make your family happy, you will do what makes them happy..

Here’s to hoping that no matter what…or who… comes your way, may you have happiness and love always.

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