Eid Catch Up & Aashurah Gift Exchange 2014

السلام عليكم و رحمةالله و بركاته

I have just realized that my post on wishing everyone a blessed Eid Mubarak did not load due to network problems recently.

I do apologies and I hope everyone had a blessed Eid, filled with lots of Barakah, joy and most importantly, following in footsteps of making your own sacrifice, which is your duty, if you are able to afford it.

The most unique thing about Eid for me, was the fact that I got to slaughter my own sheep for the very first time in my life.
Usually my dad does it for all of us, but it was quite an experience and made the concept of sacrifice all the more real for me.

What was your Eid like? I’d love to hear about it, so please do comment and share your experience with fellow readers.

Back to the other part of the topic, Aashurah is coming up.
And for those sisters who would like to take part in it this year, please do send in your Information to me, so I can set it up within the next few days.
Last year’s Gift Exchange was such a success, Alhamdulillah , aside from a hiccup or two.

This year I would love to include children, so if your little ones, or older kids, would like to take part, it would be wonderful.

The information required is as follows:

Contact number and alternative number
Email address
A short note about yourself and 3 types of things you love, or that interest you.

The aim of this once again, is to bring sisters or brothers in Islam, together by getting to know someone from a different area, province or even a different country.
Please note that females will be matched to females and males will be matched to males.

Please do keep in mind that the Postal service in South Africa is yet again on strike… Yes it’s very annoying and totally inconveniences everyone, as everything arrives very, very late, if at all.
If possible, please try and use a courier service.

All emails are to be sent to theturquoisescarf@gmail.com by the 18th of October 2014, insha Allah.

Replies will be sent out by the 22nd of October 2014, if not earlier.

I look forward to all the comments and emails that you send in.

Have a wonderful week further.

وعليكم السلام و رحمةالله وبركاته


Friendship: Navigating The Tricky Path

The most awesome of people around don’t have to be physically close to you in order to make a difference in your life, as friendship is a relationship founded in the sharing of similar likes and dislikes between two souls.

That’s why it is said:
Show me who your friends are, and I’ll tell you who you are.

Just like a mirror reflects all that stands before it, so too are the people you choose to have as friends.

Judgements are made, whether you’re aware of it or not, based upon those you call your friend.

But one should also be careful in whom one befriends.

Question yourself and ask :
Am I always paying for stuff when going out?
Do I always have to ask to see a particular ‘close’ friend?
Am I used as an excuse/alibi when my ‘friend’ always goes out without even inviting me?
Do friends always borrow stuff from me, and when I ask for anything, are they willing to help me?
Is this person here for me, the way I am always there for him /her?
Is this person worth having in my life if the ‘friendship’ we have does not benefit me in any way?

These questions might sound harsh or selfish, but here’s the thing: why are you spending your time and energy on a ‘friendship’ if the person you consider a friend, never includes you in anything she/ he does?

Believe me when I say that this type of person wouldn’t think twice about going after something you might want for yourself, or about stabbing you in the back.
She/he is out to get what they can for themselves. There is no conscience in this person that will guide them away from being selfish. No thought of caring about you, no matter how close a friend he/she may be to you, will matter , as long as they achieve their goal!

These types of people are toxic, and as soon as you discover this type of person is amongst those you count as friends, you have a choice.
Either you keep being this person’s friend, although they may not even consider you to be a friend at all,
Or… You remove them from your life!

There’s no need to feel guilty or even bad in this situation because in the long run, you’ll find the people who are worthy of your friendship, and those are the ones who will always want the best for you, no matter what happens.

They will also be there for you when you need them, as much as you will be there for them when they need you.

These are the treasures you will gain in your search for friendship.


Aashurah Gift Exchange


السلام عليكم و رحمةالله و بركاته

Dear bloggers

I realize that this is a bit late but I’ve recently just had an interesting idea on how to make this Aashurah unique.

As we know, Islamically gift giving is encouraged as it strengthens ties with kith and kin.

It is my idea that this year and hopefully, انشاالله in future years to come, that we take the initiative to follow upon this sunnah.

What I am proposing is a ‘ Secret Sister’ for females to exchange gifts, and for men, you will have a ‘Secret Brother’.

The idea is that, if you do sign up for this, you will send in an email to theturquoisescarf@gmail.com, containing your name, gender , blog name, full postal address and a short description of your likes/ hobbies.

I will then pair up sisters separately and brothers separately, and forward you the name and address of the person who is your ‘Secret Sister’ or ‘Secret Brother’.

This is purely for the pleasure of Allah, and I ask you to please fulfill your part in sending the gift with, perhaps a note containing contact details so the receiver may thank you.

In this way, may we be able foster and strengthen ties with one another and perhaps even become good friends and better sisters/ brothers within Islam انشأ الله.

I look forward to your participation.

Let’s make this Aashurah, a unique one.
This is open to all participants from around the world.